Born June 20, 1945, New York City
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B.A. Harvard College, Magna cum laude, 1967

M.A.  Clinical Psychology, New York University, 1973
Graduate program in Anthropology, The London School of Economics, 1968-69

Ph.D. Clinical Psychology, New York University, 1974

Fellowships: Recipient of NIMH Fellowships for academic years, 1967-68, 1969-70, 1970-71

Recipient of Leverhulm Fellowship, 1968-1969, for study abroad

Certificate in the Practice and Theory of Psychoanalysis, The Psychoanalytic Institute, N.Y.U. Medical Center, 1984



Licensed clinical psychologist, 1975

Certified for Active Membership, American Psychoanalytic Association, 1988 

Appointed Training and Supervising Analyst, Columbia Center for Psychoanalytic Training and Research, 1993



American College of Psychoanalysis (honorary member)

American Psychoanalytic Association[i]

American Psychological Association (Divisions 12, 39)

Association for Psychoanalytic Medicine

International Psychoanalytic Association

(New York Psychoanalytic Society and Institute, 1992-1995)

(Psychoanalytic Association of New York, 1984-1992)



1998 - Clinical Professor of Medical Psychology in Psychiatry. Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons

1998 - Adjunct Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry. Cornell University Medical Center

1995 - 98, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry. Cornell University Medical Center

1993 - Training and Supervising Analyst and Faculty, Columbia Center for Psychoanalytic Training & Research

1992 -,Faculty, Columbia Center for Psychoanalytic Training and Research

1992 - 1998, Lecturer in Psychiatry, Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons

1986 - 1993, 2006-2007 - Faculty, The Psychoanalytic Institute at N.Y.U. Medical Center

1985 - 1995, Clinical Associate Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry, Cornell Medical College

1985-86, Visiting Associate Professor of Psychiatry at New York Medical College

1982-85, Adjunct Associate Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry, Cornell Medical College

1980-84, Clinical Associate Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Downstate Medical Center

1980-84, Adjunct Assistant Professor, Psychology in Psychiatry, New York Hospital, Cornell Medical Center

1978-80, Clinical Assistant Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Downstate Medical Center

1978-80, Clinical Instructor (Adjunct), Department of Psychiatry and Psychology, New York Hospital, Cornell Medical Center

1977-78, Visiting Assistant Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Yeshiva University

1976-78, Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Ferkauf Graduate School, Yeshiva University

1974-76, Adjunct, Freshman Year Program, New School for Social Research

1974-75, Adjunct Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, New York University



Private practice, 1975-:  Psychoanalysis (50 cases to date), psychotherapy supervision, child consultation, couples and family therapy –

Playwriting, 2001-

Media consulting and script editing, 2002-

Horary Member, American College of Psychoanalysis, 2014-

Board of Directors, The Sigmund Freud Archives, 1991-

Board of Directors, Margaret S. Mahler Research Foundation, 1994 -

Secretary/Treasurer, The Sigmund Freud Archives, 2005-2014

Member, Editorial board, International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 2004 –7

Senior Associate Director for Clinical Affairs, The Columbia Center, 2007-

Chair, Committee on Training and Supervising Analysts, The Columbia Center 2002 -2007

Member, Executive Committee, The Columbia Center, 2002 –2007

Editorial Board, Journal of Applied Psychoanalytic Studies, 1999 -

Member of Council, Association for Psychoanalytic Medicine 1999 – 2001

Chairperson, Program Committee, Association for Psychoanalytic Medicine 1997 - 2001

Member, Program Committee, Association for Psychoanalytic Medicine, 1994 – 1997

Member, Program Committee, The American Psychoanalytic Association, 1992 - 1995

Member, Committee on Affiliate and Associate Membership, The American Psychoanalytic Association, 1985-1995

Member, Committee on Public Information, American Psychoanalytic Association, 1995-1997

Editorial Board, Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 1996 - 1999

Editorial Board, Gender and Psychoanalysis: An Interdisciplinary Approach, 1996 - 1998

Editor-in-chief, International Journal of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, 1984-1986



John Harvard Scholarship, 1964, 1966, 1967

Harvard College Scholarship, 1965

Detur Prize; Phi Beta Kappa; Adams House Crest, 1967

Teacher of the Year, Psychiatry, Downstate Medical Center, 1979, 1981

American Association of Publishers Professional and Scholarly Division Award for the

Outstanding Book in the Behavioral and Social Sciences, 1982  for FATHER AND CHILD (see publications). 1982

The Rockefeller Foundation Bellagio Study and Conference Center Residency, 1993

Peter Blos Lecturer, Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services, 1991

Nominee, Best Book, First Annual Gradiva Award, National Association for the Advancement of Psychoanalysis, 1994

Howard Klar Memorial Teacher of the Year Award, Columbia Center for Psychoanalytic Training and Research, 1995

Freud Lecture, New Jersey Psychoanalytic Society, 2011

George E. Daniels Merit Award, Columbia Center, 2009

Who’s Who in America, 2010-

Annual Vamik Volkan Lecture, Virginia Psychoanalytic Society, 2011

Sigmund Freud Lecture, New Jersey Psychoanalytic Society, 2011



The Signet Society, Harvard University, 1965-



Approximately 450 scientific papers, special lectures, grand rounds, keynote addresses, etc. to lay public, undergraduates, graduates students, psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, psychoanalysts, etc.




Sole Author:

The Male Paradox: Why Men Feel Like The Weaker Sex and How the Struggle Between Sexuality and Aggression Shapes Their Identity.  New York: Simon & Schuster, 1992; Hamburg: Ernst Kabel Verlag GmbH, 1993.

What Men Want:  Mothers, Fathers and Manhood.  Selected Papers of John Munder Ross 1975-1990. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1994.

The Sadomasochism of Everyday Life.  New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997. Japan: Asahi Shimbun, 1998; Poland: Santorski, 1998.



Tales of Love, Sex and Danger, co-author with Sudhir Kakar. Munich: C.H. Beck (Uber die Liebe und die Abgründe des Gefühls), 1986; New Delhi: Oxford University Press, 1986; Paris: Presses Universitaires de France (Les Pieges de l'Amour Erotique), 1987; London:    Unwin & Hyman, 1987; New York: Basil Blackwell, 1987; Osaka: Sogensha, 1992; Zagreb: Graficki Zavod Hrvatske, 1991; Milan: Studio Redazionale, 1991.  Revised 25th Anniversary edition, Oxford University Press India 2011


Editor and Co-Editor:

Father and Child:  Developmental and Clinical Perspectives, co-editor with S. H. Cath and A. Gurwitt, Boston: Little Brown & Co., 1982.  Paperback Edition: New York: Basil Blackwell, 1989.  Also author of four chapters:

            1) "The roots of fatherhood: excursions into a lost literature,"

            2) "In search of fathering,"

            3) "From mother to father: a boy's search for a generative identity and the oedipal era,"

            4) "Mentorship in middle childhood,"

International Journal of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, Vol. 11, Editor-in-Chief, 1986.

The Oedipus Papers, co-editor with George H. Pollock, The Chicago Institute Monograph Series, "Classics in Psychoanalysis," New York: International Universities Press, 1988.

New Concepts in Psychoanalytic Therapy, co-editor with Wayne A. Myers, M.D.,    Washington, D.C., American Psychiatric Press, Inc., 1988.



"The development of paternal identity: a critical review of the literature on nurturance and generativity in boys and men," Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, Vol. 23, No. 4, pp. 783, 1975.

"Towards fatherhood: the epigenesis of paternal identity during a boy's first decade," International Review of Psycho-analysis, Vol. 4, No. 3, pp. 327, 1977.

“The representational world in psychoanalytic psychotherapy" (with a Robert Stolorow, Ph.D. and George Atwood, Ph.D.) International Review of Psycho-analysis, Vol. 5, No. 3, 1978.

"Fathering: a review of some psychoanalytic contributions on paternity," International Journal of Psycho-analysis, Vol. 60, No. 3, pp. 317, 1979.

"Notes on the genesis of pathological splitting," International Journal of Psycho-analysis, Vol. 61, No. 3, pp. 335, 1980.

"Oedipus revisited: Laius and the Laius Complex," The Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, Vol. 37, pp. 169, 1982.

"Father to the child," The Psychoanalytic Review, Vol. 70, No. 3, 1983.

"The darker side of fatherhood," International Journal of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, Vol. 11, 1985. Also in  he Personal Myth in Psychoanalytic Theory, Eds. Peter Hartocollis and Ian Davidson Graham; Madison, CT: International Universities Press, 1991.

"An essay on romantic, erotic love," for Supplement on Affects, Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, eds. Theodore Shapiro and Robert Emde, 39, pp. 439-474, 1992.

"The clinical relevance of the contributions of D. W. Winnicott," panel report for Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 1993.

“Oedipus Tyrannus and the postmodernist psychoanalyst:  a book essay," Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 1995.

“The movies: The femme fatale and the battle of the sexes,” Gender and Psychoanalysis, 3:2, 1998.

“Once more onto the couch: Consciousness and Preconscious Defenses in the Psychoanalytic Situation and Process,” Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 47:1, 1999.

“Psychoanalysis, the anxiety of influence and the sadomasochism of everyday life,” Journal of Applied Psychoanalytic Studies, January 1999.

“Preconscious defense analysis, memory and structural change, International Journal of Psychoanalysis 84(1):, 2003

“Trauma and Abuse in the Case of Little Hans,” Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 55:3, 2007.

“Brothers, sisters and a return to reality,’ Volume on Contemporary Perspectives on the Oedipus Complex. Psychoanalytic Inquiry,  November  2010



What Men Want:  Mothers, Fathers and Manhood. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1994.



"The forgotten father," chapter in Psychosexual Imperatives, Self-in-Process Series, II, eds. Marie Coleman Nelson and Jean Ikenberry, Human Sciences Publications, 1979.

"Paternal identity: a personal equation of manhood and fatherhood," chapter in On Sexuality: Psychoanalytic Observations, eds. C. W. Socarides and T.B. Karasu, New     York: International Universities Press, 1979.

"Fathers in development," in Parenthood: A Psychodynamic Perspective, eds. Rebecca S. Cohen, Bertram J. Cohler, Sidney H. Weissman. New York: Guilford Press, 1984.

“Gandhi: The sensual ascetic,” co-author with Sudhir Kakar in Illustrated Weekly of India, June 1985.

"The sins of the fathers," co-author with James M. Herzog, M.D. in Parental Influences: Health and Disease, eds. E. James Anthony and George H. Pollock, Boston:  Little Brown &Co.1985.

"Beyond the phallic illusion," in The Psychology of Men, eds. Robert S. Liebert, Frederick M. Lane and Gerald I. Fogel, New York: Basic Books, pp. 49-70, 1986.

"The riddle of Little Hans," chapter in Fathers and Their Families, eds. Stanley H. Cath, Alan Gurwitt and Linda Gunsberg, New York: Analytic Press, 1989.

"The eye of the beholder," chapter in New Dimensions in Adult Development, eds. Calvin A. Colarusso and Robert S. Nemiroff, New York: Basic Books, 1990.

"Identification: a discussion," concluding chapter in Pivotal Papers on Identification, ed. George H. Pollock, Madison, CT: International Universities Press, 1993.

"Male Infidelity in Long Marriages: second adolescences and fourth individuations in intimacy and infidelity” Intimacy and Infidelity:  Separation-Individuation Perspectives.  Ed. S. Akhtar and S. Kramer, Northvale, NJ: Jason Aaronson, 1996.

“Masculinity Revisited: a self-deconstruction.” chapter in Masculine Scenarios, ed.  Mariam Alizade, London: H. Karnac Books Ltd, 2003.

“The intergenerational transmission of culture in conflict: the story of a New York mongrel.” Chapter in Psychoanalysis, Culture and Religion: Essays in Honour of Sudhir Kakar. Ed. Dinesh Sharma.  New Delhi: Oxford University Press 2014.

“Athena, Antigone and their modern avatars. chapter in Myths of the Mighty Woman, ed. Arlene Kramer Richards and Lucille Spira,  London: Karnac 2015. p. 179-194



Review of Psychoanalytic Theory:  An Exploration of Essentials by George Klein, The Psychoanalytic Review, 67: Summer, 1980.

Review of Tales of Sex and Violence by Wendy Doniger O'Flaherty, Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 35:3, 1986

Review of Finding Our Fathers:  The Unfinished Business of Manhood, by Samuel Osherson, Contemporary Psychology, Winter, 1988.

Review of Observing the Erotic Imagination by Robert Stoller,  The Hillside Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 1987.

Review of The Road to Daulis:  Psychoanalysis, Psychology, and Classical Mythology by Robert Eisner in The Psychoanalytic Quarterly, Vol. 57, No. 2, pp. 305-308, 1989.

Review of The Jealous Potter by Claude Levi-Strauss, in The Psychoanalytic Quarterly, Fall, 1989.

Review of Troubled Men by Reuben Fine in Contemporary Psychology, p. 1990.

Review of Sexuality:  An Illustrated History by Sander Gilman in Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 41: 1, pp. 266-270. 1993.

Review of Oedipus in the Stone Age: A Psychoanalytic Study of Masculinization in Papua, New Guinea by Theodore Lidz and Ruth Wilmanns Lidz in The Psychoanalytic Quarterly, LXI: 3, pp. 481-486, 1992.

Review of Fatherhood in America:  A History by Robert Griswold, in Psychoanalytic Books, 1993.

Review of Female Perversions. by Louise J. Kaplan, M.D. in the Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 41: 3, pp. 883-886, 1993.

Commentary on "The Impact of Boundary Violations in Colleagues and Family Members."   Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association.  43:4, 1995.

Review of Boundaries and Boundary Violations In Psychoanalysis.  Glen O. Gabbard and Eva P. Lester. The Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association.

Review of Ideas and Identities: The Life and Work of Erik Erikson by Robert S. Wallerstein and Leo Goldberger in The Psychoanalytic Quarterly, Vol LXVII, 1999.

Review of The Course of Gay and Lesbian Lives: Social Psychoanalytic Perspectives, by Bertram Cohler and Robert Galatzer-Levy. The Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association 50: 674-678, (Anniversary Volume). 1999.

Review of Traumatic Ruptures: Abandonment and Betrayal in the Analytic Relationship. Ed. Robin Deutsch. New York. JAPA. 2015. .The Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association 63, 2:: 383-394. 2015.